Resources
A curated collection of books, tools, and organizations that can help you navigate separation, divorce, and the emotional aftermath. We focus on quality over quantity — these are resources we believe are actually useful.
Books on divorce and separation
Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder — Bill Eddy & Randi Kreger
A practical guide for those divorcing a high-conflict partner. Covers communication, legal strategy, and protecting your children without inflammatory tactics.
The Good Divorce — Constance Ahrons
A research-backed look at how divorce can be handled in ways that preserve functional co-parenting relationships and protect children's long-term wellbeing.
Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends — Bruce Fisher & Robert Alberti
A widely used guide to the emotional process of divorce, organized around a "rebuilding blocks" model. Practical and grounded, not overly optimistic.
Uncoupling: Turning Points in Intimate Relationships — Diane Vaughan
A sociological study of how relationships end — how the decision to leave develops over time, often long before it is named. Illuminating for anyone trying to make sense of how they got here.
Crazy Time: Surviving Divorce and Building a New Life — Abigail Trafford
One of the most honest accounts of what the first two years after divorce actually feel like. Does not sugarcoat the chaos or rush the recovery.
Books for children and teens
Dinosaurs Divorce — Marc Brown & Laurene Krasny Brown
A picture book for young children (ages 3–7) that explains divorce in accessible, reassuring terms. Widely recommended by child therapists.
Two Homes — Claire Masurel
A gentle story for young children that focuses on what stays the same across two homes. Good for ages 2–6.
It's Not Your Fault, KoKo Bear — Vicki Lansky
Specifically addresses the guilt and self-blame children often carry after a parent's divorce. For ages 3–7.
The Divorce Helpbook for Teens — Cynthia MacGregor
A direct, practical resource for teenagers navigating parental divorce, covering common feelings, practical changes, and how to cope.
Finding a therapist
Psychology Today Therapist Finder
Search by location, insurance, and specialty — including divorce, grief, trauma, and co-parenting. One of the most comprehensive directories available.
psychologytoday.com/us/therapistsOpen Path Collective
Offers reduced-cost therapy sessions ($30–$80) with vetted therapists across the US. A good option if cost is a barrier to accessing support.
openpathcollective.orgEMDR International Association
EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is one of the evidence-based treatments specifically recommended for trauma. If your separation involved a traumatic discovery or prolonged emotional abuse, a therapist trained in EMDR may be particularly helpful.
Find an EMDR therapistLegal aid and information
LawHelp.org
A directory of free and low-cost legal aid organizations by state. If you cannot afford private legal representation for your divorce, this is the place to start.
lawhelp.orgLegal Services Corporation
The federally funded organization that supports civil legal aid for low-income Americans. Their site has a service provider locator.
lsc.gov — Find legal aidCollaborative Divorce (International Academy of Collaborative Professionals)
If both parties are willing, collaborative divorce offers an alternative to adversarial litigation — working with trained professionals to reach a settlement without going to court.
collaborativepractice.comNolo's Divorce Center
Plain-language legal information about divorce — covering grounds, asset division, child custody, alimony, and more. A good starting point for understanding the landscape before you consult an attorney.
nolo.com — Divorce centerFinancial resources
Institute for Divorce Financial Analysts
Find a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) near you. CDFAs are financial professionals specifically trained to advise on the financial implications of divorce.
institutedfa.com — Find a CDFAAnnualCreditReport.com
Pull your free credit reports from all three bureaus. Essential for understanding your individual credit picture before and during divorce proceedings.
annualcreditreport.comConsumer Financial Protection Bureau — Divorce and Money
Free tools and guidance on navigating financial decisions during and after divorce, from the federal consumer protection agency.
consumerfinance.gov — Divorce and moneyCo-parenting tools
OurFamilyWizard
A co-parenting communication platform designed to keep exchanges structured and documented. Particularly useful in high-conflict situations or where legal documentation of communication may be needed.
ourfamilywizard.comTalkingParents
A free co-parenting app with secure, documented messaging and shared calendaring. A lower-cost alternative to OurFamilyWizard.
talkingparents.comSupport for betrayal trauma
If the divorce was preceded by a partner's betrayal — infidelity, deception, or a pattern of dishonesty — and you are experiencing trauma symptoms such as intrusive thoughts, hypervigilance, emotional flooding, or difficulty trusting your own perceptions, what you are going through is not ordinary relationship grief. It is a specific form of trauma that responds best to targeted support.
Trust After Trauma offers clinical resources and a free assessment for people experiencing the effects of relational betrayal. If this applies to you, we recommend starting there: trustaftertrauma.com/assessment